Part 1 is here.
Warning: Please to read Part 1 before going ahead otherwise you will miss the thrill that is very rare to find in this blog…
Where did I leave? Yeah she promptly replied “yes. I finished them all” and the very moment my heart just shattered into a zillion pieces.. Still there was a tiniest bit of hope sticking around and as I prepared myself to leave the room she called me out. For a split second I thought its my imagination considering my mental state and deeply expecting her to confess anytime. But, she called out again with an apologetic voice
Adi: “Amma actually I want to tell you something…
Me: With my heart beat settling down to normal I asked “Yes pappa what it is about?”
Adi: Its about the dates. I eat it everyday but just today I didn’t feel like eating so threw it in the garbage. Sorry amma
Am I not supposed to get mad for this? Instead I felt totally happy. I wanted to give her a tight hug but didn’t over react as I didn’t want her to know all that I have been through for past one hour.
Hiding the happy tears that were fighting their way down to my cheek and I replied “Its okay da pattumma. Please don’t throw it in garbage next time. Give it back to amma or appa. We can save it for later. Just keep in mind that we should not waste any kind of food. Okay?”
And she nodded heavily.. 🙂 Seriously she saved me big time and I was smiling at regular intervals for next few days. Sigh what a relief…
I am still wondering on how I would have handled this if she has not uttered those last few lines.. Your two cents please
* – The title of the post is “She is my girl” 😀 😀 😀 (can’t help it folks.. I am all teeth..)
chamathu girl, she is 😀
thanks T.. did you read the first part?
yes yes….it takes a good person to come out and tell the truth, no? she could’ve as well left it at “i finished it all” but she didn’t and that is something to be proud of 🙂
@T – yeah.. I was so happy T.. couldn’t put it in words
wow, she is truthful..you are right, it takes courage to admit it that she didn’t ate those dates..I am so proud of your daughter…
And you did handled perfectly…I got to make a mental note of this..(for future 🙂 )
And to answer your question about if she hadn’t told that…I might have played a game about likes and dislikes about food, asking her to arrange them in her liking order… And later would have pointed that sometimes she may get the food items lower in her list but she should either finish them or tell you…discouraging throwing of food stuff…But I would not have told her that I know that she threw food… May be I am wrong, as I don’t have any experience, but this would have been my approach….
thanks AT.. your approach will work. The ways to handle these situations will vary time to time but the mantra to always to stick on to is “be truthful and accept your fault.” We should make the kid realize that the impact will be lesser this way… I have come a long way with Adi on this.. there are times when she spills something and I don’t shout against my nature to just make her realize that admitting it is good enough :).. give and take is also very important.. I am sure with these awareness we moms can handle them.. after all every incident will be a first hand experience for us 🙂 we have to handle it in a way that it hurts lesser on both sides.. happy parenting 🙂
Cho chweet! 🙂 She is definitely your girl, Ani!
thx S&S 🙂 its a long journey to reach here but you don’t know when kids change.. this is a constant fear within me as I have this strong feel that I am the first responsible person for all her actions. If she has not told me instead of getting mad at her I will go mad on myself as where did I lag.. parenting is such a pressure I say.. sometimes pleasant and sometimes you know 😦
This is so nice Ani! It takes guts to be honest! God bless her 🙂
thanks Swaru.. I am glad she is like this.. wish she continues the same at least to me 😉