I am not sure if I should feel happy or sad for this incident but my instinct says I did the right thing so recording it here.
Adi can choose two electives in a school year and I already wrote about it here. I did not update the drama that happened after. The girl as mentioned was not happy with the selection and made me change the elective few weeks after school started. Now, this took a whole cycle of me writing long email to her guidance counselor with justification and she agreed to change as a one time courtesy and with a big warning that such change will not be encouraged in future.
Last week, we ended in a situation where one of her teacher assumed she is in “elective C” that I initially choose and even recommended to take that elective. On top of this Adi was also not really enjoying “elective B” which was suppose to be fun.
So, the mommy brain kicked in, did some over working and decided to give it a try with guidance counselor again to change her elective. I was impressed with the email I wrote to her that she considered my justification (the same lady who gave me big warning before), discussed with 3 other teachers involved in the process and agreed to change the elective. This was a huge huge win for me and actually boosted my ego. I would have re-read that email I wrote a hundred times in following days.
But, the girl is not happy. She was super mad at me on the day the teacher gave her change of schedule and was literally in tears.
I had my justifications for the change and she refused to listen. She even went to the extent of telling that she shouldn’t open up to me about everything. That it was her mistake first in place to tell me about the teacher assuming her elective, that I am taking advantage of the information she shares with me, that I make her life miserable, that I ruin every thing, every damn single thing in her life and what not. Trust me people, I got an ear full and more.
Is this all worth it? Will she like this new elective? Did I do the right thing for her? Should I be happy or sad? Only time can tell but I am recording this in 100 happy days as an optimistic mother who hopes her kid will someday believe that her mother doesn’t have even the slightest intention to ruin her life.
Aawe Ani !! Hugs and tight hugs to you, girl !! I remember your post last year … give it time and she will definitely see your best intentions…. Adi is a good girl and I’m sure she already regrets saying all those things… blame the teen/tween age !!
I just hope she adapts to this new class sooner!
Hugs 🤗 🤗🤗 Ani! It’s the hormones working overtime yaa. She’ll be fine. All is well sollunga!
I wish Maya! I wish!
Ani, you made the decision most mom’s would have . She sure is growing up fast – except more of these ” I hate you, you are ruining my life scenes ” from her through high school . It’s fine and totally normal and she will grow up to appreciate that you are a parent who genuinely cared about her
Hope so! I and just too scared as I dont want to make any bad decision for her! Parenting!!! Sigh!!
As a mom you chose what’s best for her, so have faith. I am sure, if not now, later she will settle in. I believe its all just the growing-up rebellion.
hope so LLT! I just hope she adapts to this new class sooner!
Hugs ani !! Yes..this all growing up rebellion!! Take care!
Hugs Ani, it’s a tough situation to be in. As everyone says, it must the hormones working, she will appreciate your concern later
I still haven’t gathered the courage to ask her about this new class. hope she just settles in quickly!
Hugs hugs Ani. I really hope Adi loves her new elective over the period of time.
I hope so T.. haven’t enquired about this new class yet!!
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