Today is my FIL’s 4th year death anniversary. This will be another keeper post every year in blogathon. I spent some time today in recollecting memories about him and I still haven’t come across a person who can inspire me more than him! He has inspired me with his kind thoughtful actions and has major influence on my personal growth to be a better person. I am proud to say that I follow some of his principles.
Biggest lesson I learned from him is to not to hold on to ego and be available to those who need you. He has supported me with grace at crucial times of my life. He will wake up before 6am, take shower, wash/dry his clothes, pray and be ready and available to take over my kids when we wake up. It was Adi until she was 2.5 years old and the same history repeated 8 years later with LHB when I lived with my in laws for 4 short months. LHB was 6 months old and my FIL learned to change diapers at that time.
At that time, we didn’t have house help to wash/dry clothes. So, the arrangement was I will start the washer before heading out to work and he will dry them by carrying buckets of wet clothes to terrace and hang them there. He will also bring them down once dried and keep in my room! This is such a relief for me. He clearly doesn’t have to do it, but he did, and this is the reason he stands out for me!
He is a man of very few words but good at observing the needs and offer help! He is approachable and makes us feel comfortable to ask for help! You know what I mean? We cannot ask help to anyone just like that but to him you can ask and be rest assured that he will do it that too just the way you want it to be done!
I have tagged all posts about him here – https://anisnest.wordpress.com/2022/01/19/remembering-fil-01-19-2022/
I made rava kesari and vada today evening. We offered them to him and prayed!