Mother Nature

Adi’s recent work at art class. They were asked to make a face mask with Mother nature as theme.

Do you see the purple petals around and the green leaves as eyes? They have made this with paper mache.

This is now decorating the showcase near her school office.



Avocado Ranch

Avocado dressing to replace ranch!  Tested and Tasted. I strongly vouch for it.

This can also be used as a bread spread.  Perfect for a weekend breakfast.

1 large avocado
2 teaspoons fresh lemon juice
1/2 cup greek yogurt – I used 3 to 4 spoons. normal yogurt should also be fine.
1 teaspoon hot sauce – pepper powder is an alternate option.
1/4 cup extra virgin olive oil – I used 1 spoon.
2 garlic cloves – optional.
3/4 teaspoon salt.

Tastes better if the avocado is fully riped.  Smash the avocado, mix all other ingredients, mash well and enjoy!!!




For the uninitiated (I recently learned this word from IMC and love using it), here is an easy way to scoop Avacado.

Cut it in the middle, twist on both sides, pull apart, scoop with a spoon around the edges. If the avocado is fully ripe, it will just come off easily.

avocado ranch



Serious talks

An attempt to have  “serious talks” with Adi:

Incident # 1
The girl is now addicted to “Cakeboss” that she will readily accept an offer from Buddy if he decides to employee children. So, you know like that “typical mommy” who has this constant thirst to always teach good values to the kid, I grabbed the opportunity when the girl was watching “Cakeboss” and told M that may be cooking is a better profession for our daughter as she loves all cookery shows and how she can excel in that yaada yaada.. Adi snapped, Amma may be “watching cooking show” is a better profession for me!!!

Incident # 2
We were discussing about money, its importance, how we earn it et all. I spend all my energy for about five minutes explaining to her the full cycle of

money=need to work
work = need to have a basic degree
degree = graduate from a college
graduate = study well now and go to middle school and high school

so, it all boils down to studying well now. I drank a full bottle of water after this talk. Then, decided to check if she understood and asked a few questions. I know who can win the fate.

Self: what do you need when you grow up to live in your apartment and buy things for yourself?
Adi: Money
(I was happy that she got the idea and straightened myself to ask her the next set of questions. You know work, degree, graduate, study well and all that)
Self: So, how do you get that money?
Adi: By playing and jumps around by saying I hope, I hope, I hope with her fingers crossed!!!

No, you don’t want to know my reaction. Please.

Incident # 3
We attended a free knitting class on a weekend and learned different type of knots. Later that day, we were practicing at home to make a bookmark and the girl was very impatient. She wanted the output in few minutes. I was continuing with my knitting. She asked me with a jealous look if I will be done with my bookmark by today. I should have just shut my mouth with a simple yes or no but as you know me, I spoke for the next five minutes about how I can’t complete it now as this requires more time and patience. That, now I have very little time to do things for myself. That, I will do knitting, dancing and all that -ing once she and her brother are on their own and doesn’t need me anymore yaada yaada..
After listening to all that patiently she replied with a worried face “Don’t worry amma. I will ensure that I depend on you even when I am 30 and you don’t get any free time to do things for yourself”

The End!



Is time the best healer? I don’t agree at least for those pains that I categorize as life pain. It has been more than a decade but the intensity of the excruciating pain remains the same. The same to have sleepless night accompanied by a wet pillow when the memories of the pain gushes over as if they all have  just happened yesterday. There is no hope anymore. It is time to realize there is no way out and just accept to live with it. Not to realize for those few days and forget but to realize and be mindful about it always. The biggest challenge is to be mindful and yet live with sanity. After all, life is full of challenges.


Zen mother

Sharing a first hand experience of how a mind shift in split of a second makes a great difference with Parenting.

Scene: I was multi-tasking on a weekend and wanted Adi to start with essay writing practice as she had an essay contest to participate in another one week. Adi was playing with N (next door girl) ignoring my plea to think of a prompt for the writing.

We have procrastinated the practice enough and I was so desperate to get her started on that day. My plan was to make her write one essay every day till the day before the contest so that she would have enough hands-on with the writing style.

Back to the scene, as it might sound normal to any mother, I reached my threshold after all that plea and was about to explode. Then, in a split of a second, the zen state took over me and I asked politely “who is willing to take up a challenge?”. I kept the challenge details as a surprise for some time, let it brew up and then spilled the beans when the girls couldn’t stand it anymore.

The challenge was to write on a prompt in 30 minutes and my phone was used as a timer. Not a minute more, not a minute less. Both the girls were ready with their writing materials before I could think of a topic. We were very strict on when to start the timer, pause timer while taking a break for nature’s call and every second was counted very carefully but end of the session, the essay was written beautifully.

There, I let out a big sigh of relief and one of my biggest worry of how to make this girl practice essay writing was put to peace.

On the following days, the girls were looking forward to the essay writing session. They liked my feedback, smileys and doodle on the paper and even wrote two essays on one day.

What I loved the most about this whole exercise is that I got to learn a piece of their mind and things that really impacted them in every essay. Some of the topics were

“Write about an event that affected you in the past” – Adi wrote about her fruit themed 8th birthday party that I arranged for her. I was jumping in joy upon reading the essay as she has recollected every detail of the party and how much she loved it.

“What one thing you will invent to make this world a better place” – their creativity was amazing with this essay.

“If you have a day to spend for yourself, how will you spend it?”

We also went creative with topics on certain days. It turned out to be a lovely exercise and all three of us enjoyed the whole process. I am very sure that my girl wrote the final essay very well.

Imagine the same scenario if I had let out my anger. We would have either had a terrible one week in the name of preparation with painful essay writing sessions or just gave up on the contest. I can’t imagine. For once, I was very happy and assumed myself as a zen mother. **If I may call myself so for at least few minutes**

Cross posted at IMC



Amma’s kaivannam

Whenever she gives the choice to us we generously say “rasam mattum vachidunga..adhu podhum. It might be a simple task for her but she doesn’t know that its a feast for us”.

One dish that M and I unanimously choose from Amma’s list always.

Method 1
1. Tadka – Mustard seeds, Asafotedia, Curry leaves
2. Add cut tomatoes, slit green chillies, saute till the tomatoes get mushy.
3. Add pepper powder, jira powder, salt, crushed garlic, turmeric powder.
4. Add tamarind water and bring it to one boil.
5. Add coriander leaves after switching off stove.

Method 2
1. Grind tomato, pepper, jira, green chillies.
2. Add the ground paste to tamarind water.
3. Add turmeric powder, crushed garlic.
4. Tadka – Mustard seeds, Asafotedia, Curry leaves.
5. Add the tamarind water mix, bring it to one boil.
5. Add coriander leaves after switching off stove.

Enjoy!! Naanga appadiyae sapiduvom illai illai kudichiduvom :)



Career day

Career day at school will always see Adi wearing that standard doctor coat we bought some three years ago. We never discussed as what she really wanted to be for the fear of hunting for the right costume and she didn’t bother too. She was happy as long as she got her white coat and stethoscope.

But, this year the white coat was missing and we didn’t have enough time to buy a new one. So, while thinking what to do, Adi came up with this brilliant idea. She decided to go as an artist (she really wants to be one in grownup days). She wore the t-shirt that RM gifted her (decided to say that her aunt made this design and inspired her to be an artist) and took a card board color palette along with it. I was overwhelmed as this was the first time we made justice to the career day.

Thank you is a small word RM. She loves this t-shirt and kept chanting on the initial days of receiving this gift as “How does aunty know that I love books amma? Isn’t the words written are so true? very true amma, very true”.

It was a very thoughtful gift. Thanks you RM..